Being Frank about encouragement and achievement

Did you hear about the Indiana kid that was accepted in all eight Ivy League schools? 

WTHR-TV reported Stefan Stoykov, a North Central High School senior moved to Indianapolis from Bulgaria with his family 10 years ago. He didn’t know a word of English and cried his first day in school. I don’t know what the future holds for him but so far, his story is truly inspiring. 

It’s what America is all about! Working smart, working hard, taking advantage of the opportunities and the resources at hand and becoming successful. 

I was inspired when I saw his story on TV during lunch hour a few days ago.

Years ago, I heard a Hollywood critic say that town uses words like “genius” all too frequently without considering what genius means.

I think that is true for the whole country. We are too quick to use superlatives.

People say they work hard. We say someone is brilliant. Really? Do we have many Einsteins running around? 

We applaud mediocre results.

It hasn’t happened in a long time, but occasionally we would receive a call from a well-meaning mom (usually mom; I don’t recall dads doing this.) 

Their son had tried out for sports but was on the bench nearly every game or meet. 

The newspaper sports reporters usually wrote about the same kids because those kids were just better than others on their team. Some were among the best in the state. 

But mom would call and very strongly suggest her son needed some encouragement in the form of newspaper coverage. 

One of the problems in America is lack of accountability and standards that are all too low. 

It’s true in my profession. 

We have many contests and I have won my share of them. I think I should have won on occasion when I lost to entries I didn’t think were as good but I probably won a few awards when other entries were truthfully stronger. 

The journalistic winners are usually recognized at a semi-formal luncheon or dinner in front of dozens or hundreds of their peers. That’s all well and good, but I know how too many of those contests are judged. One person reads all the entries in one group and picks the winner and maybe runner-up. 

So, what does that award presented in front of hundreds of our peers really mean? Not much, I’m afraid. It is one person's opinion. Perhaps on another day, he or she would have chosen another entry. 

It’s time we demand more of ourselves and demand more of one another. 

Accountability must be done in a positive manner but today we, like the mothers of the not-so-good athletes, have confused encouragement with achievement. 

Frank Phillips
Reporter

The Brazil Times

Brazil, Indiana
(765) 918-8915 (cell)

Author of "Living in Victory" (an Easter story) available in paperback on Amazon.com and on Kindle

Nogood-niks set bad example for our children

OK. I'm over it. It's time to move on.
When the Colts lost to The Evil no good-nik Boris Badenov Patriots and we learned that the Pats balls were under inflated I was incensed.
The Pats perhaps didn't do it intentionally but suspicion indicates someone in the organization was responsible, so I went to social media and expressed my outrage.
"Boycott the Super Bowl," I said.
A few in that Twitter/Facebook court of no appeal agreed with me.
"Make a dent in that god of TV sports, the ratings," I said. "That is the only way to say we don't condone cheating." 

I doubt it made any difference. A half dozen or so people retweeted what I wrote. About 20 people read it. Many others expressed similar outrage but what is that against millions of Super Bowl fans?

I did see one story that indicated last year's Super Bowl ratings had dipped slightly from the year before and I wonder why.

If you watched the Super Bowl this year I hope you had a good time. Linda and I watched Episodes III and IV of "Star Wars" in protest of #deflategate. 
I really don't care if you watched the Super Bowl. But we should care about the message we send our kids. There has been a lot of illegal drug use in professional sports. In more than one instance, players have beaten women and committed other crimes.

What are we teaching our kids and grandchildren about making wrong choices? I don't mean what we say. What are they learning from our example?

New podcast from yours truly

I have a new podcast! Go to this Web address to find audio files ... letters from Indiana! The address is:
http://frankphillips.mypodcast.com/

The first show is an audio blog I made while covering the Barack Obama rally at Indianapolis on Oct. 7. I hope you find it amusing, informative ... anything but dull.